Weekly Newsletter - 4th December 2023

Happy Monday Tribies. 

How are you feeling? Me? I'm feeling PUMPED! 

I feel so empowered right now and like I'm right on track. 

I have no impressive results that are creating this for myself, no circumstance at all that has made me feel Pumped. 

I did my first yoga session (at home via an online program) in about a month (and before that I think I did 2 in the previous 3 months). 

My weight is slightly up after an exception this weekend but is trending downwards ever so slow. 

And some of my summer dresses (yes summer has just arrived here) are still a little bit tight. 

AND I feel PUMPED and EMPOWERED. 

Because of my mindset. 

I've done my holiday season planner. And I've reviewed and tweaked it too. 

I've given myself permission to tweak it along the way also. 

I've thought about obstacles and set myself some plans. 

I've set myself a goal...2 in fact. 

I have a goal for Christmas morning and a goal for the 6th January. 

I've thought about the exact moments on these days where I AM my goal. 

I visualised what I will be doing and how I will be feeling. 

Here's my Christmas morning one: "It's Christmas morning and I'm at my Christmas Goal Weight. I feel amazing! I'm in my pj's as the kids are opening their presents and I really feel proud of myself. So glad I made the decisions I did and have created this reality. Go me!". 

How about you? 

Have you set your Holiday Season Game Plan? 

Have you got a goal or 2 for yourself? 

Do you know where you're heading and what you want for yourself? (Make sure this is a realistic goal that you are willing to put in the effort to achieve. I don't want you aiming for weight loss and hoping to achieve it while eating whatever you want whenever you want). 

I've seen so many great goals and intentions set in the December check ins. Well done to those of you who have made these. 

If you haven't, it's NEVER too late to do this. 

Let's thrive through the holiday season together. 

Feelings Focus:

This week we're diving deeper into the feeling of 'self compassion'.

The purpose of this weekly feeling focus is to build our vocabulary for emotions, build awareness and confidence in feeling our feelings. 

I use Brene Brown's 'Atlas of the Heart' book along with resources mentioned each week. 

Our focus on Self-Compassion this week leads on from last week's focus on Shame.  

Brene refers to Kristin Neff's research on Self-compassion and the three elements:

- Self Kindness

- Common Humanity

- Mindfulness. 

I think we can learn a whole heap by reading through the definitions of these elements:

Self-kindness vs self-judgement: "self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. 
Self-compassionate people recognise that being imperfect, failing, and experiencing life difficulties are inevitable, so they tend to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful experiences rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals". 

Common humanity vs isolation: "self-compassion involves recognising that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience - something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to 'me' alone". 

Mindfulness vs. Over-identification: "mindfulness is non-judgemental, receptive mind state in which one observes thoughts and feelings as they are, without trying to suppress or deny them. We cannot ignore our pan and feel compassion for it at the same time. At the same time, mindfulness requires that we not be 'over-identified' with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negative reactivity". 

 Brene recommends we take Kristin's self-compassion inventory at www.self-compassion.org to learn about your strengths and your areas that need attention. 

I'm going to do this this week. 

I will share my insights once complete. Feel free to share yours with me too. 

Private Coaching:

Do you ever feel like you're going around in circles not making progress? 

We've all felt that way. 

Or do you think there's a big personal obstacle that is holding you back?

I offer private coaching for any Tribie who feels like they need extra support and for whatever reason can't achieve the support on Group Coaching calls. 

Here's some of the reasons Tribies have booked Private Coaching sessions with me:

- Had been a Tribie for a year and lost weight, kept it off but felt like they had plateaued and needed a kickstart. This client booked regular weekly 25 minute sessions.

- Prima who schedules a session to dive deep on obstacles anytime she feels she needs it. This Prima has been a private client for a number of years and books in her sessions randomly whenever needed. 

- New Tribie who wanted one on one support along her journey. We started with 8 weekly 50 minute sessions and now do weekly 25 minute sessions. 

- A Tribie who is steady with her weight loss and wanted life coaching. We meet weekly for 25 minute sessions. 

- A Tribie who had a significant negative event in their life and wanted support. We met weekly for 50 minute sessions for 4 weeks and then switched to fortnightly 25 minute sessions ongoing. 

- So many other reasons such as Parenting, work challenges, relationship challenges, help with planning etc.

As you can see, there's many different reasons and ways to use Private Coaching. 

I offer blocks of 4 sessions at a time that can be used any way to suit you. 

Private Coaching session options:

• 4 x 25-minute sessions = $295 AUD (approximately USD $201 and GBP £151). You can book these sessions here: https://www.fastmamatribe.com/offers/wmDo6oiE
   
• 4 x 50-minute sessions = AUD $590 (approximately USD $402 and GBP £308). You can book these sessions here: https://www.fastmamatribe.com/offers/L592LyyA

Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or would like to discuss anything further at [email protected]

New Facebook Group:

I've noticed through the coaching I've done over the past year in particular that we have a number of Tribies who are parenting Neurodivergent and/or LGBQT+ children.

Along with the standard parenting challenges these parents most often face additional challenges, feel constantly judged and question themselves and their parenting. 

I really want to hug every single Tribie and tell you "You're enough just as you are" and have you feel a part of our community of support and belonging, acceptance, non-judgement and ongoing growth. 

To continue moving towards making this wish reality, I have created the Fast Mama Support Group - Parents of Neurodivergent and/or LGBQT+ Kids

This group is open to all Tribies who would like to be a part of this group. 

You can join the group via: www.facebook.com/groups/fastmamaparentsupportgroup

The purpose of this group is to connect with other parents who are in a similar circumstance to you.

Support, be supported, share, listen and hold space for each other.

If you have any questions or suggestions please email [email protected]

What's On:

To find out what's on and see the times in your local time zone check the 'what's on' section of our Backstage area here: www.fastmamatribe.com/whatson

Big love and hugs to you all.

Let's have an awesome week. 

Love
Lindell xo